Comments on: I never cried for my father

By: Miz BoheMia

Miz BoheMia — Sun, 02 Apr 2006 06:41:02 +0000

Well said amiga! Hope you are having a good week!

By: mamaholler

mamaholler — Sat, 01 Apr 2006 18:40:38 +0000

This is beautiful.

When my sister died I cried. I still cry for her loss and it happened three years ago. I cry because I miss her greatly. I do not feel her near to me, though I dream of her, though I named my daughter after her and though I celebrate her life in memory.

You do not cry for your father because you did not lose him, the same way some people do not cry when people they love move to another state. That is really amazing. I’ve never heard of such a thing before. What is even more amazing is that you could write about the experience indirectly in your blog and I, not knowing you at all, could understand it. How beautiful.

By: Monika

Monika — Sat, 01 Apr 2006 15:19:30 +0000

There is no question that America has suffered during the last government. But not only within the USA. The rest of the world- which is quite big actually- has so critical and sometimes really bad views of America. I often stand up to friends and point out that you canÂ´t generalize and just have an opinion about the American governemnt and include all Americans within the country in that opinion.
As a European I must admit that I get the shivers when I hear “God bless America!” Not becuase I donÂ´t want God to not bless America, but because I want God-if he exists- to bless the World! The entire world.
America was-from our point if view- always a great country, something people aspired to travel to or even live there for a while. Somehow that has changed now, when I go around and ask I always get stupid answers. I was pretty closed minded-in hindsight- before I started blogging and got to know all of you. There are so many blogging fellows that I now call my friends and I appreciate their individuality, their thinking and their compassion. America had great people, as has teh rest of the world. It is just a matter of making those people be heard!

By: Doug

Doug — Sat, 01 Apr 2006 15:18:05 +0000

Pia, that was one of your most beautifully written posts. Really terrific. Your dad would be proud and Tom Waits too.

By: Katina Mooneyham

Katina Mooneyham — Sat, 01 Apr 2006 15:09:33 +0000

I enjoyed reading this piece. I want to add that I never cried for my grandparents until we buried them. I guess I felt I needed to be strong for everyone else until I couldn’t stand it anymore.

A very thoughtful and thought provoking piece. Thanks.

By: margalit

margalit — Sat, 01 Apr 2006 06:50:46 +0000

What a beautiful tribute to your father. I rarely leave comments, but this was too good to pass by.

By: cooper

cooper — Sat, 01 Apr 2006 02:00:44 +0000

You are a beautiful courter of destiny my deah.

as always.

By: bonnie

bonnie — Fri, 31 Mar 2006 21:31:49 +0000

wow…

Hope you enjoyed the day. It’s beautiful out there.

By: josh

josh — Fri, 31 Mar 2006 20:09:25 +0000

Its a little trite to say, but the electoral college really polarizes things. In reality, the US is a whole lot of purple (what you get when you mix blue and red.)

By: Jason Gooljar

Jason Gooljar — Fri, 31 Mar 2006 19:34:45 +0000

There really is no red vs. blue or liberal vs. conservative. There are those who want democracy and those who don’t. I reccommend reading an excellent book by Frances Moore Lappe called Democracy’s Edge.

We all at times are liberal on some things and possibly conservative on others. We have truly allowed ourselves to become divided. It works well for the GOP to divide, it’s their strategy. Look at what happened after LBJ passed the civil rights and voting rights legislation. The north and south were divided and the GOP capitalizied later on with the southern strategy. Actually it happened even before that with the southerners leaving the Dems for the GOP or forming the Dixiecrat party which Trent Lott and Strom Thurmond loved so much. Don’t forget Mr. Wallace and his “segregation now, segregation tomorrow, segregation forever.” Yes, he so the light later on but still….

If and when the Dems start using that strategy we’ll be worse off. And they can do it too. They can play to us and say we are all “on the left” and have to hate the other side. Then we’ll be even more polarized and it will come down to who gets more voters to the poll or who can rig the vote the best. And it will all be because of a percieved split within the electorate.

As for your father and your loss, I’ll add that i’m 27, and my father died when I was 14. And watching him die has had a profound impact on my mental health. I have a panic disorder that sort of came out of that. However, I did not cry just like you did and it came back to bite me ten years down the line.

I’ve learned a lot through therapy and medication, but I will say that being human ain’t all it’s cracked up to be LOL.