We’re not setting examples, Denny, We’re just being true to who we are.” Alan Shore (James Spader) to Denny Crane (William Shatner) Boston Legal
The one thing that I have never been accused of is pandering to any group or individual. The above quote goes so well with this. It wasn’t planned
This definitely isn’t a by product of my Junior High and High School experience at one of these top-ranked schools. My school district stressed pandering and conformity. Still does I believe.
When I said that it was harder for students from Long Island, especially some districts in Nassau County, to get into good colleges then, and was very similar to today’s college madness, I truly meant it.
I neither felt my chronological age, nor worried about having children. I had been married at 21 so it might not have been as pressing when I was in my 30’s, especially after I finally broke up with Zachary. I hated to date; had to feel chemistry flowing deeply Maybe that’s not a great quality. I won’t ever pretend to being perfect. In my heart I did aspire to it for too much.
While nobody is unique, I have had some unique problems, all the more strange because I did go to one of America’s top school districts, and it was even then. My problems weren’t treated, not out of parental neglect quite the opposite, but because I was a girl with a high IQ, problems that were supposed to be the provenance of boys, and I was adopted.
By talking about my problems, in the context of a story that happened to me, I might be able to help somebody else, or to find help for myself.
If anybody has very minor Aspergers, ADHD, CAPD, a myriad of learning disabilities, and acute anxiety, because who wouldn’t be after all this, please leave a comment or email me–it’s on the sidebar somewhere.
And I truly hope that some of America’s top school districts have learned that students with problems that aren’t easily definable are listened to along with their parents.
Once I left that school district, I found my voice, but the more subtle ramifications have been life long.
I think that anybody who had and has these problems yet they have never been the central focus of her life deserves to tell any story she frigging wants to. Despite what my titanium standard school district said about me, I’m so worth it.
There are reasons that I don’t talk about my day-to-day life now, and I hope that people can respect that. That said if I ever decide to get married I will let you know ahead of time, unless I meet him and marry him the next day.
I might be as capable of that as I’m capable of delaying an answer to a proposal for almost three months. I’m capable of many strange things. Sometimes I don’t think at all; other times I analyze all conceivable variables to death. That’s when I usually make the wrong decision.
And I do tell anecdotes about my life. Little snapshots that offer glimpses into my life now.
In answer to a question that I was asked: What distinguishes a New York baby boomer from a Mid West one? We were you. Though we usually lived away from home, might have lived with a significant other, we delayed truly growing up as long as possible.
We didn’t expect to make much money as we entered our working lives in a recession. We didn’t think we were owed everything. Yet many of us refused to start at the bottom. We wanted the respect we thought due to us as college graduates. There was an older generation who disagreed. They might have won the battle, but they did, unfortunately lose the war. There are dues that we should all pay. That might be just me though.
Or we thought we delayed growing up. If you’re 35, not living with your parents usually, have a decent job with money to pay the bills and to go out, have great friends and an active, though maybe not as exciting social life as you would want, you’re way ahead of the curve. You can take care of yourself.
Maybe what being a “grown up” really means is being changed as what being “a child” meant in the nineteenth century. Once children were no longer needed at the family farm so much, and the industrial revolution brought up sweeping changes, including child labor laws, true childhood became a reality for many.
“Teenage” years didn’t become an expression until well into the twentieth century. Teenagers became a category separate and distinct from both from children and adults.
We’re redefining adulthood, and my type of baby boomer was there first.
While I know that men are living longer, most still die before their wives, or are frailer. One partner usually is. People generally live alone at some point in their lives. It’s good to know how to be totally in charge of your life and how to have fun without being dependent on somebody else.
Did I say that I’m am a micromanager, and have been called too independent?
Yes, it’s nice to have somebody to be around when you need somebody to be there. But on a night like tonight, when I had two hours seventeen minutes of dental work, it was so great to be able to postpone some social plans until Thursday, and now get ready to watch Boston Legal
The Sopranos was at its most brilliant this past Sunday. Not really up for analyzing the reasons why.
Never really talked about being a baby boomer though it was obvious from the dates of some of my stories. Think people can see why now.