Through the miracle of time stamps, I put this up before Eruv Yom Kippur. Just for the record.
I don’t know what the blogging world would be like without Dan Poorer, I think.
Dan’s honest. If you ask him a question, he might not give you the answer that you want. But it will be thought out, intelligent and informed
Dan makes me think. And he makes me laugh. He might have been watching too much TV, but this post made me think and laugh.
I don’t know why the bloggers who have been posting in Courting put up with me. But I’m so glad that they do.
And Dan, in another life I was a recruiter. Can make any resume sing
Maybe it’s just that I’ve been watching too much TV for the past week…but
have you ever wondered why people are so obsessed with relationships?
I’m not talking just the stereotypical water-cooler talk about which soap
opera character is currently sleeping with three different men…
I’m talking blogs talking about detailed sexual histories. Relationship
books. True romance magazines. Penthouse letters. I’m talking about the
guy who wrote a completely inaccurate book about Men not being that into
you that has his own TV show. I’m talking about the umpteenth attempt of some woman to prove a completely unsuitable man is the father of her child. Or it’s cheating cousins on Jerry Springer.
Whatever it is, we are obsessed with people’s relationships.
Of course, I have a theory as to why this is. And this may be that
unfortunate quarter spent studying accounting talking. Past performance is
an indicator of future returns.
We’re obsessed because we like to look at other couples and say, “Oh, my
man acts exactly like that.” And we roll that forward into the future. That’s probably also why we have to make our own mistakes in love… because
otherwise we never learn.
But it goes deeper than that.
Before we get involved with someone, one of the keys is finding out their
complete relationship history. How many people have they slept
with? Have they been married? Kids?
Sure, it shouldn’t matter. If two people want to be together enough,
their pasts are just that. Their pasts. But it’s like a realtionship resume.
If he’s been with a million girls, chances are he doesn’t see you any
differently. If she’s only been in three relationships, none of which
have lasted less than 3 years, she’s going to be attached to you like glue.
Kind of gives a whole new perspective on references and calling the
previous employer, doesn’t it?
We’re obsessed because no matter what book publishers and Oprah would have you believe, there’s no particular logic to who falls in love and why. No
matter how much we want to stop and think about things, and make decisions with our minds for our own good… alot of times we don’t.
If you’ll excuse the metaphor, it continues to hold the more you examine
People with too much experience may cost to much to hire, or may be moving from employer to employer with no thought for anything but themselves. Of course, if they don’t have enough experience, you wonder if they can even do the job. Or why they were let go from their previous position.
Extracurricular activities can help or harm you; depending on who’s
looking at your resume and what the job description they’re hiring for is.
There are things that you just leave off a resume, no matter how accurate
they are, or important to your experience they were.
The best ones show management potential.
You’re not supposed to include your race, gender, or age. But they’re
more important than they should be.
And remembering all the details that should be on your resume is hard when
you sit down to figure it out; and only important when you’re looking for
a job. When you’re happily employed, the resume itself is less important.
Really sparse actually.
I wonder if there’s someone I can pay to spruce it up.
Wait a second.