I got a comment in one of my old PT posts by somebody who is either a student in mental health, a wannabe or somebody who just likes using language in as complicated form as possible. I can’t imagine this person is actually a professional yet….
It made me realize that no matter how concretely I explain things people are going to think that NLD is a mental health problem not a neurological one.
Do you blame the mother when a child has Asperger’s? Or do you say that the child is acting up to get love from the parents? No of course not. You would be stoned to death metaphorically. Yet it’s OK to say that about NLD? I don’t think so.
So much of my life was wasted in therapy trying to find answers to problems that are neurological not psychological. I can’t stress that enough. I see the difference between young women with NLD and me. They are much more confident. They haven’t spent their lives being blamed for not being able to organize themselves properly or looking at things their parents did wrong yet knowing that can’t be the true problem because they were secure in their family’s love. Yet maybe this happened or that….No I can’t do this to myself anymore.
Twenty years ago yesterday my father had a stroke. He died five days later. I miss him more than ever.
I hope to be out of this mood shortly. I also hope that during my lifetime people begin to truly understand that the depression and suicide rates for NLD are so high because it’s not a matter of trying harder. It’s a matter of learning how to work around what doesn’t work properly in your brain. It sounds so easy!
I miss your dad too… with you, for you… and again, you’ve touched the secret place in me that only you can know. I love you, you perfect Pia. <3
I have all faith that your mood will change. As far as those who write comments on your post at PD…. you have to expect that and realize that and sometimes they will make you want to bash a thick skull in but as you can I think just realizing that you have to answer comments like you are answering a child and realize everyone is damaged in some way even your commeters.
Pia,
Did you ever have an MRI? Magnetic Resonance Imaging is fairly new technology. According to (The Great) Wikipedia,
‘The first MR image was published in 1973[5][6] and the first cross-sectional image of a living mouse was published in January 1974.[7] The first studies performed on humans were published in 1977.h Sch’
I graduated from High School in 1977.
Pia-
Unfortunately, a lot of people won’t understand something like NLD unless there is a definitive “test” for it. Unlike a broken bone, you can’t show these people an x-ray image that clearly indicates the problem. NLD, like Asperberger’s, is a hidden illness with no good understanding of what causes it, how to diagnose it clearly or how to treat it. I think that this is especially true of illnesses that range over a wide spectrum, like NLD, where you have a broad range of symptoms that can vary from very mild in some cases to very severe in others. Of course, much of this can be said for many of the mental illnesses, like depression, bipolar disorder, etc., and that may be one of the things contributing to that commenter’s inability to distinguish between a neurological problem like NLD and a psychological one like OCD.
@Sparrow (Pixie)
Thanks Pixie I totally appreciate that. Love you much!
@cooper
Cooper. I know but I’m a woman on a mission and too close to the material to be as distanced as I should be
@Karen
Karen–was thinking about your comment on the way home from the store. if somebody paid me a lot of money I would have one. And i do mean a lot of money. Otherwise why? To see that I’m missing matter from one side and have too much in another side? I’m not going to pay for that. I know what my problems are. The complete round of tests I had in the late 80′s showed it. The diagram the doctor had me try to do a few years ago confirmed it
@Adriftatsea
DK–you’re absolutely right but I got the feeling the commenter was playing with me and trying to show his/her knowledge. I don’t like being played with