Yesterday in my post I said that I was angry. That was true for a hot second. I can get all fired up when writing.
Truth is I hate being angry. It’s a waste of time. When I walk down my block I always have this stupid smile on my face because everybody I don’t personally know who lives in my building looks alike to me. Building resident! Say hello!
I do get fired up about things and totally riled. But I try to save my anger for causes and even then try to look rational. Because the truth is nobody likes, respects or wants to work with an angry person. Nobody ever had to teach me that about the work place. it’s just places like New York streets when they’re crowded, or my always mentioned store from hell, Fairway, that I sometime dream about killing people in.
Fairway, the only in New York grocery store from hell has everything a person could possibly want at a small, small discount. Well extra virgin olive oil for $7.99 a liter is a big discount but olive oil tends to go rancid so unless you have a family, and use it every night or entertain constantly and actually cook, it’s not worth it.
Fairway is a store that can easily anger a person. The check out lines can go down through the aisles. They have expeditors to tell you what number cashier to go to. Many people pretend not to see the lines, and try standing near the checker. Bad move as at least 20 people will tell them in no uncertain terms where to go.
The other day the store was so crowded people were stepping on each others toes. I couldn’t get to most aisles that I wanted to go to. I felt like screaming but I had my smile on-sort of like putting on lipstick, it’s become a don’t leave home without it thing.
I was the first person on one of the aisle lines. The woman behind the woman behind me, kept on screaming that I was letting people go in my stead. That’s something that might happen in another lifetime.
All I could do was smile and point out the expeditor. Didn’t help. I was holding up the line. End of story.
Kept on saying: I’m not going to lose it; not going to lose it, not in Fairway. The woman behind me and I went to cashiers at the same time.
For some reason we looked at each other and couldn’t stop laughing. You really don’t want to lose it at Fairway because it’s so easy to and such a cliche. Also you never know who is shopping in the store. There could be everyone from an old lover to the coop board president to the agent you want to pitch a book to, to Broadway stars, to a relative you haven’t seen in years.
Ever since I decided on the smile my way through life approach, I’ve been a much happier and calmer (usually) person. It’s true that putting on a smile though faked can make you actually feel better. Maybe because people can’t help but respond to a smile with one of their own. Even in Fairway.
Good story and well told. So, the moral is smile and the world smiles with you, shout and the world laughs at you.
Sweet Pia,
I’d have to agree fairways are the best place to get frustrated and lose it. Maybe we could go to a larger busier restaurant if you’re still volatile on Sunday. If you’ve only got one phone call, there’s not much I can do from here. I just spent your bail on a puppy, so please don’t lose it.
I agree with Doug. Good job on not losing it at the Fairway (I have no idea what a Fairway is, as we don’t have those here, but I can only liken it to local grocery chains and I completely understand the traumatic experiences)…
nicely done. Some days even when smiling you still have the fantasies of how those folks would look with a boot in their nose.
I run a business and in our training they always point out how you can fool yourself into a good mood just by smiling and telling yourself it’s a good day so great advice as I can attest is actually works.
Thanks for letting me visit your blog.
It’s very easy to lose it. What I do is take things in perspective and laugh. Most of these people are Fairway are thinking about what they are having for dinner, or something else in their lives.
Meditating is a good way and working out at the gym will spring you back to life.
Congrats for keeping it cool. I’ve seen people who aren’t as composed as you begin yelling or screaming or doing childish things, as if that’s going to speed up the line. All they do is succeed in making everyone in the store mad at them.
-Steve
Games are for Children
Funky Fairway…
hey there !
Ever visited your blog ?
I see a file include statement whenever I visit your blog .
If this is your custom built blog , please do go through it again.The script open close tages are not correct.