I first became friendly with Bone because I love his writing, and had no idea that he would encourage me to literally take posts out of hiding.
I plug for money and for gifts. No I leave that to Page Six I plug because it’s usually a way of introducing bloggers to other bloggers, and I think that’s important in developing new blogging communities, and showing work that I just personally like. This post has been totally changed since last night and earlier this morning. I don’t usually do that. But I can’t and won’t delete this particular comment that was meant to personally hurt me. There is a link to the original post and the comment later on. I will use it as a lesson in how not to comment.
Here’s a link to my best of posts
A link to some posts and comments about me–which will be added to.
My personal favorite story
This is my personal favorite page
I had heard of the radical right. Knew that there were people who believed that the source of all knowledge comes from The New Testament. I’m a strongly opinionated New York Cultural Jew with strong ties to Long Island, and South Florida.
Before I began blogging, I had no idea that some people consider my opinions to be worthless because they’re based on many sources.
As I have found out from knowing Belinda and Doug, people in the radical right are less Christian than I am.
Here’s a link to my page on Doorman phobia’s. Both mine, and other people who read The New York Times
While people are always welcome to comment on Courting, I do encourage “lurkers” or people who read without commenting. Find that to be normative behavior. There as many reasons for reading without commenting as there are readers who don’t comment.
However insult my moral/values and you have made a lifetime enemy. That includes the person who just added a long, totally ignorant comment to a very heavy post that I once wrote about my late boyfriend Zachary who died years after we last saw each other.
That particular comment would have been personally hurtful had I the least bit of respect for the person who made it. Since I don’t, it doesn’t hurt as much as the person intended it to. First understand that comments aren’t the place to put your moral/values. Second don’t make assumptions based on my blog, whether you have read one post or the entire blog. A blog is a vehicle with which we maneuver our stories
Especially with my Zachary stories. I have left much out. PEOPLE WHO FEEL THE NEED TO DISPARAGE MY LIFE IN COMMENTS IN MY BLOG SHOULD GET A LIFE OF THEIR OWN
I would save a child’s life or the life of somebody who is dependent on me. I would die for my country and other causes. But to put an adult male, who stalked me for a year after I kicked him out, over myself?
I’m not crazy. Only a crazy person would put a stalker’s life ahead of her own. In a relationship we slowly find out about our partner’s strengths, weaknesses or sicknesses.
This is the sick part of blogging. I tried leaving a comment at his site and wasn’t able to. I sent a response to his Hotmail account. I know that he will keep commenting as long as my blog is in the public eye. He has invited me to go away with him. Frankly I have never answered one of his comments. Maybe one in the beginning. He is my exception to the “always return a comment” rule. Might ocassionally miss one or two.
Have added a page with The New York Times Magazine article on how El Salvador’s complete ban on abortions has affected that country. It’s the poor women who pay, sometimes with criminal sentences
I didn’t want to write my post about my abortion. People who think that writing a post like that just flows out of me, and that I don’t relive the experience are sick. But I have never regretted my decision and am not about to now.
No the prior post wasn’t me being defensive. It was me putting things together and furthering my understanding of myself. Blogging allows me to do that because I know that I have an empathetic audience who encourage me to go to the next level.
That sounds narcissistic. Maybe it is. Blogging is the best therapy I have ever had, and I have had some of the most expensive, well known therapists around. Blogging allows me to explore issues from every single perspective.
While blogging is both addictive and exhausting, it feels like a safe addiction and the exhaustion, right now, feels like being exhausted after a great hot, humid day at the beach. And I am about as capable of deep thought as I am then
Aren’t most people who put themselves in the public eye, narcissistic to some degree? If you have a blog that people actually read, you are living in a glass house. Which doesn’t mean that people are invited to throw stones
While I have often said that blogging is walking the high beam without a safety net, other bloggers act as the net. And that’s totally appreciated. I have found groups of bloggers who get what I’m doing, and many of them are included in the “bloggers posts…about me,” page*. There are more bloggers that I must include.
It took me a very long time to think of proper categories, and hopefully I will be on a role tomorrow and able to put them in the posts. It will help in reading Courting as I talk about many subjects. Many people love my family stories; others love my Zachary ones.
A solo blog like Courting does require much maintenance. Especially since I explore many subjects.
April is Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month. There’s been an ongoing series of posts at BIO on sexual abuse. Cooper, Empress of Wonderlandornot, has more on Duke. She has become one of my moral compasses
Posts are dated entries that live in the center column here. My pages, which aren’t dated, are on the sidebar to your left. They remain exactly where they are until I decide to change them.