I first became friendly with Bone because I love his writing, and had no idea that he would encourage me to literally take posts out of hiding.
I plug for money and for gifts. No I leave that to Page Six I plug because it’s usually a way of introducing bloggers to other bloggers, and I think that’s important in developing new blogging communities, and showing work that I just personally like. This post has been totally changed since last night and earlier this morning. I don’t usually do that. But I can’t and won’t delete this particular comment that was meant to personally hurt me. There is a link to the original post and the comment later on. I will use it as a lesson in how not to comment.
Here’s a link to my best of posts
A link to some posts and comments about me–which will be added to.
My personal favorite story
This is my personal favorite page
I had heard of the radical right. Knew that there were people who believed that the source of all knowledge comes from The New Testament. I’m a strongly opinionated New York Cultural Jew with strong ties to Long Island, and South Florida.
Before I began blogging, I had no idea that some people consider my opinions to be worthless because they’re based on many sources.
Until I met Belinda,our Duke Dawg ,Doug,and other bloggers, I did make the unfortunate mistake of calling those horrible people “Christian.”
As I have found out from knowing Belinda and Doug, people in the radical right are less Christian than I am.
Here’s a link to my page on Doorman phobia’s. Both mine, and other people who read The New York Times
While people are always welcome to comment on Courting, I do encourage “lurkers” or people who read without commenting. Find that to be normative behavior. There as many reasons for reading without commenting as there are readers who don’t comment.
However insult my moral/values and you have made a lifetime enemy. That includes the person who just added a long, totally ignorant comment to a very heavy post that I once wrote about my late boyfriend Zachary who died years after we last saw each other.
That particular comment would have been personally hurtful had I the least bit of respect for the person who made it. Since I don’t, it doesn’t hurt as much as the person intended it to. First understand that comments aren’t the place to put your moral/values. Second don’t make assumptions based on my blog, whether you have read one post or the entire blog. A blog is a vehicle with which we maneuver our stories
Especially with my Zachary stories. I have left much out. PEOPLE WHO FEEL THE NEED TO DISPARAGE MY LIFE IN COMMENTS IN MY BLOG SHOULD GET A LIFE OF THEIR OWN
I would save a child’s life or the life of somebody who is dependent on me. I would die for my country and other causes. But to put an adult male, who stalked me for a year after I kicked him out, over myself?
I’m not crazy. Only a crazy person would put a stalker’s life ahead of her own. In a relationship we slowly find out about our partner’s strengths, weaknesses or sicknesses.
This is the sick part of blogging. I tried leaving a comment at his site and wasn’t able to. I sent a response to his Hotmail account. I know that he will keep commenting as long as my blog is in the public eye. He has invited me to go away with him. Frankly I have never answered one of his comments. Maybe one in the beginning. He is my exception to the “always return a comment” rule. Might ocassionally miss one or two.
Have added a page with The New York Times Magazine article on how El Salvador’s complete ban on abortions has affected that country. It’s the poor women who pay, sometimes with criminal sentences
I didn’t want to write my post about my abortion. People who think that writing a post like that just flows out of me, and that I don’t relive the experience are sick. But I have never regretted my decision and am not about to now.
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No the prior post wasn’t me being defensive. It was me putting things together and furthering my understanding of myself. Blogging allows me to do that because I know that I have an empathetic audience who encourage me to go to the next level.
That sounds narcissistic. Maybe it is. Blogging is the best therapy I have ever had, and I have had some of the most expensive, well known therapists around. Blogging allows me to explore issues from every single perspective.
While blogging is both addictive and exhausting, it feels like a safe addiction and the exhaustion, right now, feels like being exhausted after a great hot, humid day at the beach. And I am about as capable of deep thought as I am then
Aren’t most people who put themselves in the public eye, narcissistic to some degree? If you have a blog that people actually read, you are living in a glass house. Which doesn’t mean that people are invited to throw stones
While I have often said that blogging is walking the high beam without a safety net, other bloggers act as the net. And that’s totally appreciated. I have found groups of bloggers who get what I’m doing, and many of them are included in the “bloggers posts…about me,” page*. There are more bloggers that I must include.
It took me a very long time to think of proper categories, and hopefully I will be on a role tomorrow and able to put them in the posts. It will help in reading Courting as I talk about many subjects. Many people love my family stories; others love my Zachary ones.
A solo blog like Courting does require much maintenance. Especially since I explore many subjects.
April is Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month. There’s been an ongoing series of posts at BIO on sexual abuse. Cooper, Empress of Wonderlandornot, has more on Duke. She has become one of my moral compasses
Posts are dated entries that live in the center column here. My pages, which aren’t dated, are on the sidebar to your left. They remain exactly where they are until I decide to change them.
No neeed to explain….ever.
Blogging is exhausting and addicting. I tried to categorize my old posts the ones that were tranferred and after three I was too tired to continue. I was honestly thinking of putting up a letting people know I’d pay them to categorize my old posts. In the end for me it is not worth it but for you….you might want to condisder hiring out………. π
You are right blogging is very much exhaustind and addictive! I am a blogoholic… but it is my outlet… my outlet of sanity… I do believe.
and btw… I’d be your net anyday!! π
Wonderful article – I think the interviewer captured both the essence of ‘Courting’ and your personality quite well. It was startling to hear her explain blogging though; I take it so much for granted now – it is so integral to my life and who I am. I tend to forget there are many people out there who don’t even know what a blog is. Most of my friends, for instance! I just can’t seem to get them interested – even those who are more than a generation removed. It is an odd addition to one’s life though Γ’β¬β donΓ’β¬β’t you think? And you are right – it can be exhausting – and exhilarating at the same time. Perhaps we bloggers are a schizophrenic lot at heart!
Terrific article – and congratulations! I share your opinion with the original purpose, though you’ve much to say that needs to be read and am so glad that there is a book in development – and yes, I too have saved a fortune in therapy by blabbing my own variety of stuff – though I do envy your committment to craft and the fact that no matter what, you keep writing. Like I’ve said before, I often lurk and read and don’t comment – but I’m always touched, amused or deeply moved by what you’ve chosen to share.
You know you are addicted if you have ever thought “I am SO going to blog that” or something along those lines. Especially if it before you think to tell someone in person…
got your email(s). sorry for the confusion, i get it now!!
xoxo
Pia, I had a ‘quote’ posted on a really nasty website once, they took me SO BADLY out of context it was unreal! So I went back in an edited the post, as the nice person who misquoted me also posted a link to the post. It worked out very much in my favour, and made the poster look massively stupid.. I took great joy in that. π
Make lemonade from your lemons, and know that we all LOVE you..
Mean commenters are out there, they always will be. They aren’t worth getting your knickers in a twist.. Honest…
“PEOPLE WHO FEEL THE NEED TO DISPARAGE MY LIFE IN COMMENTS IN MY BLOG SHOULD GET A LIFE OF THEIR OWN”
Um, can I second that?
Received another hateful comment myself today. Except that mine cowardly leave no email or URL.
Makes me feel important though π
Thinking of changing my name to Bonegelina. Seems to fit the papparazi lifestyle better.
I agree with Cooper, you don’t need to explain and you can delete whatever you want, including….
So glad the article worked out, it turned out really nicely and is an interesting read even for non bloggers.
Go girl, very proud!
I didnt know you were from LI! I am moving to Garden City in a few weeks. I close on the house on Friday.
What town do you live in?
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I am just starting to read your blog,Pia….and hoping to live to be at least 103 so I’ll be able to finish it all. π Great work and a very special talent!
Well said Pia! A very wise and meaty post! I loooveee it! You know that idiots who leave disparaging comments are simply pathetic, unhappy, miserable souls with nothing better to do… like you said, they should get a life of their own!
As for you, we all love you so and there is a reason for that! We know a good thing when we see it!
It’s unfortunate the things people will say without any regard. I agree with the above comments that you’re in control as Courting is your blog, your cyber home, and you can clean house and take out the trash whenever you want. And for what it’s worth, glad to be part of the collective safety net.