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A confession

January 11, 2011 By pia

I must thank Cooper.  When I look at this I feel such immense gratitude, and further words fail me.

This is a difficult post for me to write.  I have many religious friends.  I respect their rights to believe whatever they want as long as it harms nobody.  But when Westboro “Baptist” Church came to a town, and the counter-protesters were greeted with more disdain than the protesters–I kept my real reaction under wraps.  I can’t anymore.

First, in a large city like NY or in another political climate, I would have ignored them.  Here where most people wore red to vote, I felt it important to show that Westboro is an anomaly.   I’m not sure the congregants at this church realized how sick Westboro is. I think they thought the counter-demonstrators were the ones to be scared of and that made me sad.

I don’t believe in either heaven or hell.  I don’t believe in the big sleep where one day the Messiah will wake all Jews up.  I don’t believe my lack of beliefs condemns me.  And if it does, at least I have acted upon my principles during my one lifetime on earth or anywhere probably.  I would so like to believe in something bigger than us.  I can’t and don’t consider that a character flaw.

I understand why people in big cities ignored Westboro though I don’t think they will anymore.  Westboro is a sick sick sick group of fanatics who condemn every person, every church, every school that don’t believe in what they believe.  Which is 99.99% of us.

I got over it when a group of people counter-demonstrated members of Westboro who were picketing a nearby church last spring and the church had the police escort us far far away.  Though many in the police told us they supported us–being Vets and all.  Cars drove by honking their horns in support.  We were right to express our disdain.  There were Jews who lost family members in the Holocaust.  “By the time they came for me, there was nobody left to speak…”  There were people who just wanted to show their disdain against a false church.

I was told by members of the church that turning the other cheek is better, and how many people they baptized that day.  I wimped out and said “that’s great.” (It’s in a post and comments somewhere.)

I should have asked them if they know history.  If they understand that this incredible yet flawed country was based on the principle of religion freedom.  I could give history lesson going back to the Pilgrims, a little William Penn and then onto more modern history.

I could explain that my family came here as they weren’t allowed to have a profession, own land or do many things we take for granted. (Though I’m not sure about the land ownership anymore.)  My mother cried the day we bought our house.  She so wished her mother was alive to have witnessed that.  We were finally fully American.  All we needed was to switch from Miracle Whip to Hellman’s and to begin eating white bread.

Living in America is both a privilege and a responsibility. We are still the nation most people want to immigrate to.  We have tremendous natural resources (I will leave taking care of them for other people to discuss.)  We have tremendous wealth.  Yes it is centered on the top one percent and that has to stop but we do have opportunities most people never have.  I can list everything that’s bad about this country but in my heart of heart I’m glad to be American.

We have the Constitution.  Lately a lot has been said about “liberals wanting to change it.”  Where? I do think that public figures have a responsibility, a great responsibility to not make inflammatory remarks.  From the first time I saw Sarah Palin’s now infamous MAPP I was sick. She incites on purpose and then stands back and says nothing. Some people here think Palin’s a role model.  My role models don’t have “targets.”

My role models try to do the right thing and unfortunately that means being silent.  We can’t be silent anymore.  People who aspire to political office should be held to a higher standard than the rest of us.  They should voluntarily sign pledges saying that they understand “crying fire” has consequences.  They should understand that’s not meant literally, but that many people don’t understand nuances.  If people understood nuances would we have to use LOL all the time and colons with parentheses to show a smiley face or other things?

I hope we begin national dialogues.  I hope Sarah Palin understands that her MAPP wasn’t an innocuous fun exercise but something people could take literally.

And when Westboro comes to town we should come out enmasse to show that their power lies in bringing people together, against them.  Nothing else.  I stopped being over Westboro when they attempted to picket Elizabeth Edwards funeral and now when they plan to picket the funerals of people killed in Mesa.  Yes they have First Amendment rights.  So do I.

*The church I’m talking about has beach baptisms in the summer.  They have them near where I sit but I can’t say anything as it’s within their First Amendment rights.  It’s not within any rights for them to bring a car and park on it the beach but….So why do they think they can hamper my First Amendment right to peacefully protest by having police take us far from the church?

Filed Under: Sarah Palin, westboro Tagged With: A northerner moves to the south

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Comments

  1. Doug says

    January 11, 2011 at 3:12 pm

    I feel fine ignoring them, frankly. Let the pigs go down to the river.

  2. pia says

    January 11, 2011 at 3:41 pm

    @Doug Doug I would agree with you but I’ve seen too many vets and other people who were emotionally hurt by them
    The one fireman’s funeral after 9/11 that was disrupted–by them. They sent a pretty young girl knowing nobody would stop her.

  3. cooper says

    January 11, 2011 at 10:39 pm

    I think that it is important to stand up for things in the case of that church, but at what point is it too exhausting?

    It’s important as well to find like minded people to help you fight the good fight.

    Ignoring is not always possible.

  4. pia says

    January 12, 2011 at 10:05 am

    @cooper
    I think it’s important to stand up for the First Admendment. Why let the Westboro protesters near the church and not the counter-protesters? I’ve been trying to understand that since April

  5. Bone says

    January 12, 2011 at 11:23 am

    I saw on TV about some group calling themselves Angels something-or-other. They wear white costumes with big wings and surround the funeral ceremony so that the family is entirely sheltered and blocked from seeing the hate group’s protesters.

    It gave me chills to see such a beautiful and wonderful gesture in the face of such ugliness.

  6. Bone says

    January 12, 2011 at 11:23 am

    PS: You’re writing is excellent in this. I feel like you’re “in the zone” lately.

  7. pia says

    January 12, 2011 at 12:33 pm

    @Bone
    Bone that’s beautiful. Hope they’re not needed in Arizona. Thanks much for the compliment. Means a lot!!!

  8. sage says

    January 12, 2011 at 1:06 pm

    Westboro Baptist, like those who kill doctors who have done abortions is a black eye to all who strive to follow the teachings of Jesus. Besides that, they’re just plain tacky. I think they’re just out for more publicity.

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I'm from New York. I mostly lived in the Mid-Upper East Side, and the heart of the Upper West Side. It amazes me when people talk about how scared they were of Times Square in the 1970's and 1980's.

As my mother said: "know the streets, look out and you'll be fine."

What was scary was the invasion of the crack dens into "good buildings in good 'hoods." And the greedy landlords who did everything they could to get good tenants out of buildings.

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Then I hated everything about the suburbs. Yet somehow I lived in a few great Long Island Sound towns after high school.

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