I got a comment in one of my old PT posts by somebody who is either a student in mental health, a wannabe or somebody who just likes using language in as complicated form as possible. I can’t imagine this person is actually a professional yet….
It made me realize that no matter how concretely I explain things people are going to think that NLD is a mental health problem not a neurological one.
Do you blame the mother when a child has Asperger’s? Or do you say that the child is acting up to get love from the parents? No of course not. You would be stoned to death metaphorically. Yet it’s OK to say that about NLD? I don’t think so.
So much of my life was wasted in therapy trying to find answers to problems that are neurological not psychological. I can’t stress that enough. I see the difference between young women with NLD and me. They are much more confident. They haven’t spent their lives being blamed for not being able to organize themselves properly or looking at things their parents did wrong yet knowing that can’t be the true problem because they were secure in their family’s love. Yet maybe this happened or that….No I can’t do this to myself anymore.
Twenty years ago yesterday my father had a stroke. He died five days later. I miss him more than ever.
I hope to be out of this mood shortly. I also hope that during my lifetime people begin to truly understand that the depression and suicide rates for NLD are so high because it’s not a matter of trying harder. It’s a matter of learning how to work around what doesn’t work properly in your brain. It sounds so easy!